Self esteem is something innate. It is something that our parents and friends helped us develop when we were young and as we grow older, this is still being developed. This means that it can change and if have somehow lost your way, here are a few things that can help.
First, you have to find out what is causing your self-esteem to go down. There are no gauges or tests for this but it is pretty obvious when people look at you or when you find the time to look in the mirror.
You simply have to snap out of it because you are only human. We have to accept the fact that we are good in certain things and poor in others. If you are able to figure that out, you can focus your energy on things you know you excel in rather than wasting time on trivial matters.
Now there are people who may make fun of your limitations. They may even try to destroy you or take advantage of this weakness to hurt you so be strong and dont let these bother you at all. It will even be better to hang out only with people that accept you for who you are in the same manner that you will accept them for their limitations.
This leads us to the next phase to get our self esteem back and that is to surround yourself with people you are comfortable with. You can even take it to the next level by telling them to recognize you for your qualities because hearing it from other people makes us feel better about ourselves.
You can do this by striking a conversation casually or by requesting for one formally. At work, employees are appraised every year and this could mean an increase in your salary or even a promotion. If you are vain, have someone conduct a survey about you and then read the results.
But do you really need someone to tell you your good qualities. Not necessarily because you already know what they are. Look at your past awards in school and in extra curricular activities. Review what you have done for the company and just think what would happen if you did not execute your plan or offer your suggestion.
Will things be different? There is always that possibility so dont sell yourself short. If ever someone praises you for doing a good job, accept it and thank them for acknowledging your efforts.
Believe it or not, you could lose your self-esteem if someone made you feel bad and you were drawn to it. This means that it could have been avoided and the only way that can happen is if you have high self-esteem.
You should probably not have been too affected by what that person said. We all have bad days and that person probably got it but that must not get into your system. If it does, it is like getting a cold and this will spread which could also lower morale.
The truth is, you never lost your self-esteem. It was always there. This can even happen to the best of us but if we are able to overcome it, you will surely be back to your old self.
